**trigger warning: language around non-consent**
“What’s wrong with your leg?” he called with a drawl I couldn’t place. I claim injury and push forward on my three legs. Harmless really, just an invasion of privacy. From then, I feel each stare and pause more acutely and wait, wondering if another brazen passerby will push their enquiry into my intimacy.
Hair and makeup. Bright red lipstick to match my nails. Blue and red on the sparkly dress I wore to feel beautiful. Blue and red on my sparkly cane I wear because, because.
My cane. I tried to get the prettiest one the store had in stock at the time. An accessory is an accessory, mobility device or not.
Maybe if I hadn’t had it tonight more people would have wanted to dance with me. Or would have looked at me with friendly recognition instead of something between confusion and pity. But I did, and people kept their distance. I danced anyway.
I tried not to notice throughout the night how the bartender was looking at us. Me and Mango being beautiful and happy together without the need of his gaze.
He touched my arm to give me my drink; to tell me he thought my phone had fallen out of my purse. Ignore, try to ignore.
The music was house which wasn’t for me so I readied to leave after downing my vodka tonic. I reached for my sweater and I saw him come towards me. I didn’t want or need anything else so I readied to say no thank you.
He came in close. Closer than he needed even though the music was loud.
“Can I ask you something?”
Ok, I guess.
“Why does a fine young thing like you have a cane? What happened?”
One question at a time. I straighten up as much as I can, stick out my chin try and being strong and reply that I am young and fine and have a cane.
“But why?” he pries further, the heat of his breath still too close to my face. Behind me, a cement beam and I am not sure where else to back up to. “Is something wrong, I mean you’re young and all so did something happen?”
You don’t deserve my story I think, throat running dry and my eyes blur at the startle of emotions and words not to say. I fumble, mumble “injury”.
He didn’t hear me, asks again.
“It’s an injury!” I lie, yelling over the bass competing for real estate in my pounding chest.
Unprepared I turn to burning stone when, without warning he swoops me into some kind of embrace; like this confidential exchange requires even less space between our mouths to continue. Pressed against my ear I can feel his close-cut stubble on my face. His arm is around me in a half hug and all of my synapses are firing too loudly for my voice, my body, anything, to protest.
“Well the good thing about injuries” he says gayly “is that they get better”.
After dispensing his sage wisdom he pulls away, perhaps expecting more conversation or a “You’re so right! Thanks for the hope, Brother!” from me.
Instead I nod curtly, I think I say something. One word acknowledging that I heard him in a tone that says – we’re done now.
Turning away, my grip on the handle of my aide tightens and I don’t even know if I can lift it to help me get away from him. It is matter of steps back to my seat, I don’t make it before my cheeks dampen and I crumble, sobbing that I need to go home.
Not many minutes before, an enthusiastic, gorgeous, fag-tastic boy beauty crouched down to inspect my cane and exclaimed with admiration that my cane matched my dress. It was charming. It felt good.
Next I was crying into bare, caring shoulders. Arms embraced and hands patted my legs. I let go of my cane and turned away from it, not wanting to look at this object that could at once uplift, lift, hold me up and then next mark me as Other in addition to my skin my gender my sexuality. His untethered questions confirmed the whispers of feelings I had had all night trying to dance: I would be cute/hot/confident but this object pushed people away who don’t want to take the minute to see the all of me. And now, I just do not want to be the all of me.
He reminds me, shakes me out of my euphoric California daze. In the microcosm of my life filled with queers and crips and enchanting differences, my sitting, limping, cane-leaning self is all part of the package that gets loved.
Oh but out here in the looming largess of oppression I am still made to feel less-than. And I remember that it is still I fight we have to win. And I’ll fight, and I’ll write, and I’ll yell and yell back. But for now, I am going to let these tears fall.
I should not have to work this hard, and I should not have to be this brave, just to be.